What is With Suli’s Comparison of Adele’s 30 and Will and Jada Smith’s Marriage?

I saw a post about the unfairness in the different ways people react to Adele’s 30 album which focuses largely on her divorce and her experience with motherhood, and statements by Will and Jada Picket-Smith on their marriage. I would like to reproduce screenshots of the post which goes on to talk about the complexity of marriage and the need to understand this and embrace it, but I understand that there are IP rights that may impact that gesture.

Essentially, the post which you can find following this link (https://www.instagram.com/p/CXDqfb5sV50/?utm_medium=copy_link) said that people prefer a simple truth — essentially, Adele’s rendition of her divorce — bevause it is more appealing to us while we are outraged by complex truths — esentially, the Smith’s marriage.

While I agree with a lot of what Suli eventually said, I find that the comparison he started with is unfounded and unequal. I had never thought of the Pinkett-Smith marriage in the way he referred but I understand I must be the exception to the rule or something.

I don’t know about other people but my being uncomfortable with Will and Jada’s discussions about their marriage is in how what they say sound. While they talk about commitment and unconditional love, I can’t help but see some of the things they talk about as somewhat unhealthy especially in the way that both parties talk about how they reacted to things.

Yes, I cannot speak to the value of their marriage and how happy they are, but my heart broke that one party cried everyday for forty-five days. Regardless of how they continue to work on things now, I keep thinking about what could have driven them to the place where their marriage was beclouded and defined by ‘an entanglement’.

Someone talking about how they were unhappy in their marriage for weeks and stating that they were in ‘a lot of pain’ at a certain time in a marriage they stayed in isn’t the same as someone singing about getting a divorce. I applaud the Smith’s tenacity and appreciate the lessons they’re teaching us about marriage, love and parenting. But their experience isn’t the same and their narration of their experience isn’t comparable to Adele’s 30. The juxtaposition of people’s reaction to either made the post unconstructive but I went on to like the core message of the post.